probably a metaphor

I taught sex-ed to a bunch of East Asian high school kids this week. 10th grade. I had them write questions on slips of paper, fold them up, and put them on a chair in the back of the room. They wrote in their off hand and mixed up the notes as they laid them down. When they were all done with their submissions, I answered their anonymous questions. Some of them were personal, but I answered the ones I felt were respectful. 

What does it feel like? (most asked question)

Well. The short answer is that if it's done right, it feels good. Like good, warm exercise that satisfies you and leave you less anxious. At its best you your sense of self falls apart and you become unified with another person, making something that isn't you and isn't them, but something new and different and better. That's not often, though. And you have to be good at it and with someone you're compatible with. Most people's first times is awkward. It can hurt, too, if people aren't careful or are rough. Violent, even, in cases of assault. It's really human. It's hard to explain. How do you explain color to a blind person? 

When did you have sex for the first time?

This question is a little inappropriate, but I think it's a real question, and I think it's important I answer it, so I will. I was in 10th grade. 

Whoa, so you were our age?

Yup. And it was with someone who, looking back, didn't deserve me. They weren't very nice, and I wish I had waited for someone better. I felt pressured, so I did. I tell you this because I want you to know that you should wait for someone who makes you feel safe and respected. 

How big is an average sized penis? 

I don't think in centimeters, but it's like 3 inches or so. Vaginas are not that deep, so it's not surprising that penises aren't monstrously sized like in pornography.

We're having sex education because you guys don't really have a sex education class. And if you don't have a class, that means you learn almost everything you know about sex from pornography, which is like learning how to fight from Kung Fu Panda. It's not realistic. It's not real. Don't compare yourselves to that stuff. It's damaging. 

Yes. If we watch, we need to watch it critically.

No matter what, pornography will change the way that you view sex. There's no way for you to have realistic expectations if you don't have anything to compare it to. And if you do, you're still probably being more informed by it in ways you can't even understand. Does the fish know it is in water? 

They asked me a ton of questions. Probably around 30 questions total. These are just some of the ones I remember.